Sanity is madness put to good use. – George Santayana
It’s been almost a month since my last post and I want to thank everyone for their comments and emails. You helped me over the first major hurdle of my new life. I’ve been getting a lot of advice from my friends and family about how to move on and find happiness again. Some of my coworkers are telling me I should start dating. I don’t think so, but I told them to feel free to give my name and phone number out to any military general that they happen to know. I have standards, but I’m not totally picky. I’d go out with a Lt. General just as long as he looks like General Wesley Clark. Others have suggested that I take a long vacation. One of my readers, who is a nurse from my home state of Iowa, sent me this post card from her last travel destination. Bonnie, thank you for thinking about me while you were on your trip.
Meet the nurses of the Glore Psychiatric Museum, St. Joseph, Missouri. According to their website, the museum chronicles the 130-year history of what was once known as the “State Lunatic Asylum No. 2.” It sounds exciting doesn’t it? Trust me, it does if you’re a psychiatric nurse. The picture is from the early 1900s and shows what psych nurses were wearing back then. The armband signifies that they worked for the State Hospital No. 2, in St. Joseph. Dear Lord! I can’t imagine struggling with patients while wearing that get up. I’d be exhausted. No wonder it looks like those nurses are holding each other up.
Bonnie also sent me a nursing job description dated 1887. In addition to caring for fifty patients, nurses had to perform these tasks:
Sweep the floors of your ward daily. Dust the furniture and windowsills.
Maintain an even temperature in your ward by bringing in a scuttle of coal at the beginning of each workday.
Light is important for observing the patient’s condition. Therefore each day fill the kerosene lamps, clean chimneys and trim wicks.
Wash all ward windows once a week.
The nurse’s notes are important to the physician. Make your pens carefully. You may whittle nibs to your individual taste.
Day duty nurses will report every day at 7 a.m. and leave at 8 p.m. except on Sunday on which day you will be off from 12 noon until 2 p.m.
Graduate nurses in good standing with the Director of Nurses will be rewarded with an evening off each week for courting purposes, or two evenings, if you regularly go to church.
Each nurse should lay aside from her wages a goodly sum of her earnings. This is for her benefit during her declining years so she will not become a burden. For example, if you earn thirty dollars a month, you should save fifteen.
Any nurse who smokes, uses rouge, uses liquor in any form, gets her hair done at a beauty parlor, frequents dance halls, or who engages in levity on Sunday, will give the Director Nurses good reason to suspect her worth, intentions, and integrity. If her misconduct in such an unseemly and unladylike manner is brought to the attention of the Hospital Administration, she will be asked for her resignation.
The nurse who performs her labors, serves her patients and doctors faithfully and without fault for five years, will be rewarded by the Hospital Administration with a 5 cent pay day increase, proving there are no hospital debts that are outstanding.
Free soap is provided for personal cleanliness. Its use is mandatory.
Gia
April 21st, 2010 at 11:00 am
Welcome back, I hope your heart is begining to heal! As for the nurse post, holy cow, I am amazed anyone ever wanted to become one, definitely a lobor of love back then! Hope your day contains a few smiles!
Gia
rlbates
April 21st, 2010 at 12:06 pm
If you come through Arkansas, let me know.
Jean-Luc Picard
April 21st, 2010 at 2:34 pm
It must be so tough bringing yourself back after such a major event in your life.
RehabRN
April 22nd, 2010 at 7:01 am
NR:
Now, you know I cannot show the pointy-haired boss that list which includes dusting or some union official will get that transferred to the nursing staff. (Why not? We already clean bedside tables daily, remove linen from rooms and stock gloves and hand sanitizer)
I’d be fired for that levity thing. If you can’t laugh in rehab somedays, you’d be going straight to #2, as in #2 mental hospital.
I’m pulling for you. We don’t get many generals in our parts (mostly enlisted) but we did have a lieutenant colonel who looked a little like a distinguished, older version of Ethan Hawke (had a nice goatee and mustache.) but he left and word has it he’s somewhere in the Carolinas.
Bif
April 22nd, 2010 at 12:06 pm
Glad to see you’re slowly coming into your new phase of life. Found this quote and thought of you
Every instance of heartbreak can teach us powerful lessons about creating the kind of love we really want.”
- Martha Beck
TraumaDiva
April 22nd, 2010 at 12:39 pm
OMG .. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I have been consumed in my job and divorce and writing and have been a terrible blog mate!!! Please accept my apologies and my sincere condolences to a wonderful woman – YOU!!!!!
danielle
April 22nd, 2010 at 3:59 pm
Wow – those job duties really put my week last week into perspective!! LOL
One more piece of advice – when people give you advice, smile and thank them for thinking of you – and then you do what your heart tells you that you need to do!
The Curmudgeon
April 23rd, 2010 at 10:04 am
Welcome back. You’ve been missed.
diana
April 24th, 2010 at 7:59 pm
I think you are great. So sorry for the sad time you find yourself moving through. You have been missed. Love.
tammy swofford
April 26th, 2010 at 6:51 am
Welcome Home!
I checked about a week ago and was hoping for a new post. Thank you for coming back on board. Possibly nurses in 1887 could care for fifty patients in reasonable manner? ‘Twern’t that pre-PCN days? smile
Dating? Too soon, Darling. Tell your friends to take a hike. Professional lunch with a male counterpart? Go for it! You miss the male perspective.
Love ya much!
Tammy
Jamie Davis, the Podmedic
April 28th, 2010 at 8:44 pm
Darn, I was doing well until I remembered that I did engage in levity last Sunday evening.
Nurse Vance
April 29th, 2010 at 12:57 am
This is my first time posting on your blog and I would like to start by offering my condolences. I don’t know if you have any pets but animals can sometimes help with coping with loneliness (they never say the wrong things). As for your post, it makes me thank my lucky stars that I was not born in the 1800’s. As a fellow psych nurse I enjoy learning about our beginnings, it helps to put the future in perspective. Your Blog is very interesting.
Eileen
April 29th, 2010 at 2:42 pm
Hi, I found your blog recently and I’ve been checking regularly since I saw your post about the death of the man you loved. I have read all your old posts – I can see what he meant to you and there was nothing to say that was helpful so I didn’t even try. You said once you were thinking about looking to work in Europe. Come over and see us – if you do, get in touch. I would love to meet you. I used to live in Germany in the American sector – I had many wonderful friends, some of whom I am still in contact with. My advice: no “dates” yet, wait at least a year – but Danielle has it right, listen to yourself. But make friends, lots of friends. And I assume you already made use of the soap without it being mandatory!!!
xxx Eileen
Cathy Lane RPh
April 30th, 2010 at 9:21 pm
Thanks for posting. When I worked as an aide 30 years ago pre-pharmacy school, one patient with rheumatoid arthritis told me that she’d wanted to be a nurse when she was in high school, but her father forbade it. All that in the 1800′s job description, and when did Semmelweis conclude that disease was passed along by unclean hands, or Pasteur propose germ theory?
nurseonthemoon
May 2nd, 2010 at 5:16 pm
Welcome back. Looks like we have all been peeking in to see how you were doing. Just like making hourly rounds on a night shift. Be kind to yourself. Just concentrate on putting one foot in front of the other and the rest will come along in due time.
Mulli-OH-RN
May 8th, 2010 at 1:39 pm
Mother Jones, God bless you and I’m so sorry for your loss. Been a fan for years. And re: the 1887 nursing job description. All that stuff is still in there, just hidden under “other duties as assigned.”
Diana
May 9th, 2010 at 4:01 pm
Dear Mother Jones,
I have been in somewhat of your shoes. I retired from nursing in January 2007 only to have my husband of 37 years diagnosed in June 2007 with metastatic cancer to the pelvis. We tried chemo and radiation but he went to heaven in October 2008. Just try to make it through one day at a time and be gentle with yourself. I’ll warn you that the first year is horrible but the second year is better. Don’t feel that you have to keep up with work no matter what unless your financial situation necessitates it. I have no desire to go back to work and am trying to enjoy my life as best I can. I find that when I am feeling very sad the best thing to help me is to do something to help someone else. You are in my prayers.
Diana
Theresa
May 22nd, 2010 at 7:07 am
Mother Jones, I have been checking back in, thanks for the post. I will keep you in my prayers.
tammy swofford
May 27th, 2010 at 5:57 pm
I think of you often. Am hoping that in the future you will be back to a more regular blogging schedule again.
Love,
Tammy
Bert
June 1st, 2010 at 12:51 am
Interesting post!
A good description out there for nursing jobs. Probably nurses in 1887 could care for fifty patients in reasonable manner. When you are in depressed it would br better to help someone which in return makes you feel batter.
Grace Hubbard
June 1st, 2010 at 12:51 pm
I so enjoyed your information with the link to the Glore Psychiatric Hosptial Museum. I am a psych nurse and you are right! We do enjoy reading about that type of thing.
I am also interested in the history of nursing and I agree with an earlier post, nursing must have been so difficult in the early days. Maybe, mostly because of the uniforms.
Grace
aries
June 5th, 2010 at 1:57 am
Hi, I am new reader and I am very sorry for your lost. It seems that you love him so much. But like they always say “we have to move on”. If not now, maybe tomorrow?
Just trying to be funny even it is corny
Becky
June 6th, 2010 at 8:34 pm
Just wanted to let you know I’ve been thinking of you.
AzRN
June 16th, 2010 at 8:59 pm
I hope you are well. I have been thinking of you. Good to see you posting.
Ellen
June 28th, 2010 at 1:34 pm
Hope you are okay.
tammy swofford
July 4th, 2010 at 8:42 pm
Still praying and hoping for happier days ahead for you, dear friend.
Love and a big hug,
Tammy
Max E Nurse
July 14th, 2010 at 9:42 am
I been away from the blogisphere too for a bit, so I missed you previous post.
Just felt I wanted to aid to the others and offer you a big hug and lots of love. Thankfully I can not sympathise, but you have all the empathy I can give! Lots of love.
Max.
xx
Sarah
July 29th, 2010 at 8:39 pm
you should come back, we miss you.
Mother Jones, RN
August 18th, 2010 at 7:47 am
Hi Sarah. I’ll be coming back soon. Promise. Thanks for leaving your comment.
Mother Jones, RN (AKA Terri Polick)
Eliza Roberts
August 19th, 2010 at 5:09 am
OMG – I love that job description, thanks for posting it.
DAve
August 23rd, 2010 at 10:39 pm
You should do what YOU think you should do. You have within you everything necessary to get yourself where you want to be.
Sorry for your loss-
tammy swofford
September 1st, 2010 at 8:47 pm
Still miss you, friend.
Tammy
Claude Scales
September 17th, 2010 at 10:40 pm
I’ve come to this late, and, as I consider you one of my first and best blogging friends, I deeply regret not having kept up and learned earlier of your loss. I regret even more that you have suffered this, and hope that, at this late date, you will accept my heartfelt condolences. I know it will take time, but I also hope that we will hear from you again.
Nurse Buttercup
September 17th, 2010 at 10:42 pm
Mother Jones, I am so sorry to hear about your husband. You will be in my prayers.Please be gentle with yourself. <3
Theresa
September 18th, 2010 at 8:00 pm
We miss you much. I still keep you in my prayers.